My kiddo is closer to 17 than 16, and smart as a whip. They’re aware when I’m involved with someone new, and also reserved enough not to say much about it. Yesterday, I had to drop them off at school to get on the bus to go to a dance competition an hour away. I had mentioned to them that my friend and I were going to the carnival after I dropped them off. I dropped them off and was strolling around the carnival with The Musician when I got a call from them. They had forgotten to have me sign a permission slip, and I needed to go back to the school to do so. I didn’t want to cancel on The Musician, and I didn’t want to leave him there alone, so I asked if he wanted to come with me. It didn’t take long to sign the form they needed, but it afforded an opportunity for The Musician to meet my Kiddo. I was planning on introducing them soon, but now that they have met he can spend time at my place when they are home. Being that I now have 100% custody of them, this will ease up a little bit of pressure with the dating. It’s always complicated with kids…
Last night, The Musician and I joined some of my friends for karaoke at a local bar. It was a perfect night. I don’t sing, but when he sang, he was singing love songs to me. We danced all the slow songs, and he doted on me all night long. He sounded amazing singing, and I am more and more impressed the more I see him perform. My friends loved him, and can’t wait to get him to Karaoke again. Even the KJ was loving him. I hadn’t ever seen him so relaxed before, and it was a nice change. He has a confident stage presence that is impressive.
Today, we met for a quick lunch before his gig. He seemed a little quiet….that’s a side that I’m not used to yet. He is actually pretty shy when he’s not performing, which seems odd. We were sitting in my car talking after lunch. I must have said something funny because he chuckled and said he loved me through his laughter. That was the first time he said it, although he’s been holding it back for a few days. He didn’t want to say it and scare me, but it just slipped out. I hugged him, and then we both ignored it. I’m not ready to say it yet, but I do have strong feelings for him.
Last night, I was able to see The Musician’s band play. They were at a swanky yacht club where the crowd was loving them. They play mostly swing and rockabilly music…stuff that I love. The band was really swinging and the crowd was jumping. I had such a good time watching and listening to them. Seeing him in that environment was really interesting, and it deepened my affection for him. He’s very talented, and loves what he does.
I’ve never dated a musician, and I didn’t realize that when you’re “with the band” everyone wants to pry into your business…”which one is yours? who’s your husband? where are they from? how long have they been together? Come dance with us!”…. it felt like a lot of attention for an introvert, and I guess I’ll have to get used to it.
We still haven’t consummated our relationship, but he’s talking in very serious terms. He introduced me to his band mates as his girlfriend and has told his kids about me. I haven’t told my Kiddo yet, but I will soon. I look forward to having everything out in the open. Now that I have met the band, I want him to meet my friends.
Yesterday, I invited The Musician over for lunch. We had talked about watching Lost, so I que’d that up on Netflix and cooked us a delicious lunch (to prove my cooking skills). Things with him are going swimmingly. He’s kind, considerate, caring, affectionate, sweet, smart, and interesting. He’s also totally Ga-Ga over me….which I find adorable.
I had been trying to take things slow on the physical side. We hadn’t even kissed. I know myself. I am a very sexual person, and physical intimacy tends to snowball for me because of it. I wanted to save that until we were ready…epic fail on that front. Things were going great, just some light snuggling on the couch as we watched TV, and then I got up for some reason and he pulled me back onto his lap with my back against him. He started running his hands along my body (very gently, and careful not to touch the private bits) and give out soft little moans of desire…
Oh my gawd! It was just too much for me. I got intensely turned on and ended up straddling him and making out. He’s a good kisser, and my desire rose. Finally, I said I thought we should go to the bedroom. He was surprised but happy. Unfortunately, I took him too much by surprise. He was too nervous…I was too intense. This is not the first time this has happened to me. O scare men. I surprise them. They don’t expect a nice girl like me to be a Tasmanian Devil in the bedroom. It’s too much, I overwhelm them.
I felt bad, he felt bad, and later that night we had our first “fight”….which is actually a good sign. Being able to resolve an issue is a good skill and we are both the better for understanding the others perspective. We had lunch and spent some time shopping yesterday. We’re looking forward to trying again next week, and I may be able to see his band play this weekend.
Last night was my dinner date with The Musician. We actually saw each other for a little while the night before. He was getting home late from a gig, and we met up at Denny’s for a bite. It was nice seeing him, but we were both very tired.
Dinner was nice….very nice. We both got the same thing- a seasoned steak with avacado served in a bed of asparagus and roasted tomatoes. It was delicious, and something we could both eat (he eats paleo, and I have to avoid my GERD trigger foods). We had some good conversation, and after dinner we took a little walk around the craft store. He was surprised to hear that I can cook, and that I’m crafty. I was surprised that he is not, being that he is so musical.
We ended up sitting in my car and talking…. some really good conversation… hand holding and cuddling. We haven’t kissed yet. I have been holding back on getting physical on purpose, and we talked about that too. I really look forward to spending more time with him. Of course, I have some reservations…he is 15 years older and a professional musician… but they are more minor. I’m just enjoying what we have for now.
Conversation with the musician that I met for coffee yesterday has been ongoing. We even had a phone call this evening. We made plans for dinner next week. I haven’t enjoyed the company of anyone this much in quite a while, and it’s a nice change. He sent me a text that said “Thinking about you”, which is just about the sweetest thing ever…especially since I know he was busy getting ready to play a gig. The thing is, I’ve been thinking about him, too. I texted my best friend and told her that he had met me with a rose and kissed me goodbye on the cheek. Her response? ” and between times you didn’t hate him?” I asked if she was surprised, and she said yes. She says I’m too picky. I would love to hear what she thinks of him….
I couldn’t remember how tall he was, so I went and looked up his profile on the dating site (5’11”). He has put an ‘update’ on his profile that says something about recently meeting an attractive girl, and not wanting to start anything new while he is dating her, since he’s a one woman man. Again, very sweet and totally unexpected…. not that I am answering any incoming messages right now either. It’s funny, I keep wondering- why this guy? What does he have that makes me want to open my heart to him when I haven’t to anyone else for a while? I think the answer is that he is a good, kind, considerate, caring person…and that’s a good thing!
Today I had a coffee date. I wasn’t very excited about it, but I am trying to keep a more open mind about people so I went anyway. I even took the time to curl my hair.
He was inside the shop, but watching for me. He met me at the door, pulled out my chair, and presented me with a single red rose. He bought me a beverage, and we talked. Conversation flowed pretty well after the initial awkwardness, and he seemed really sweet. I had to pick my Kiddo up from school, so we were on a time limit. I think that’s actually a good thing for a first meeting. When I left, he said he wanted to see me again, and gave me a kiss on the cheek as we hugged.
I’ve been texting him all afternoon, so we’ll see how it goes…